That is right! We have 489 days to go until our wedding! What does that mean???
— WE OFFICIALLY HAVE A DATE —
I am so excited to announce that the first step on our massive to do list is completed: we found our venue, the contract is signed, and the deposit is out of my account!! Our date also happens to fall exactly 4 days in between the anniversaries of my parents and Nick’s parents/grandparents. For two people who really didn’t have a date preference (we even switched seasons!), that worked out quite beautifully.
Finding the venue wasn’t all that difficult because the “competition” wasn’t all that confusing—I’ll tell you why. While there were quite a number of options in Delaware, Maryland, and Southeastern PA, their offerings and price tags honestly made our lives easier. We hit the trifecta with our venue: it’s nearby, it’s everything we were looking for when it came to the space, versatility, and management, and the best part: the price was the best we found (with the exception of the other venue we saw). We were left with the question of whether or not to continue looking at others, but when it came down to it, this venue had everything we wanted and for the best price. Our answer was clear and now it’s ours! Yay!
While I truly wish this was the hardest part, it’s proving not to be.
THE CATERING AND BUDGET
Woah now. Food is expensive. Alcohol is expensive. People can eat before they come.
We are in the process of hunting for caterers. I’ve reached out to a number of companies and we’re starting to hear back from people now. As of this moment, we have one, maybe two viable options and three if we cut our list. I’m probably going to reach out to more, but we’ll have a good number to choose from, I think. To be straight, all I want to do is go to tastings—that would make this bride very happy.
There’s a general “rule” that says your reception (venue, catering, alcohol, etc.) should be approximately 48-50% of your total budget. Well, there’s also some recommendations that you pick your top priorities and agree that, if you spend more on those items, you’ll spend less on everything else. Venue was one of the top priorities, so now begins the challenge of where to go from here.
Budget has been the hardest aspect for many reasons. Ours has already changed more than once because more realities have set in. So why is budgeting for a wedding hard, in my opinion?
- The reality that what we thought we could expect when it comes to pricing is often totally off.
- We need to figure out to reach our goal in the time we have (though I’m confident we are in a good spot now)
- This budget has had to change to accommodate the things we want.
and worst of all….
- We’re faced with constant struggle of wanting a special day in a special place to celebrate our love with the people we love vs. not wanting to spend all this freaking money on it.
I’ve grappled with number four over and over again. So has Nick. But we realized that we want this day to be special; we want it to be with our closest family and friends; and most importantly, we truly believe we would regret doing it any other way. So we’ll make it work and cut where we can.
A WOODWARD WEDDING
I’ve been struggling with how much information to share in this section of my blog as a result of another challenge we’re facing: the cutting down of our list. I recently had a wedding-related experience that left me feeling pretty down and I really don’t want to put others in that position. On the flip side, I also really want to share this exciting time with family and friends who I’m not in constant communication with all the time. Let’s face it: who has the time for 50 phone calls every time something happens? Not to mention, the closest family members on my side are a few hours away—technology keeps us going. I also really believe that having this planning archive to read from years from now will be very special.
There are certain realities that we have to face with planning a wedding and one of them is that, despite it being “our day,” we still have limitations because we don’t have unlimited resources, if you catch my drift. I genuinely hope y’all can get what I’m gettin’ at here, because there is no eloquent way to put what I’m trying to say—and I’ve been trying since last night. It puts us in a disappointing position, but a very real one that many couples end up having to face when they have a set budget. I guess I am putting this out there as a general disclaimer because of the disappointment I faced recently. It’s a precautionary and genuine measure and my intent for this blog is to share this exciting time in our lives, not to rub noses. I’ll leave it at that.
When it comes to where to go next, we have to work towards getting the “big” stuff out of the way. There is a LOT going on in our lives right now—we are seriously trying to tackle a lot—and we have some very exciting news sitting on the horizon waiting for some Is and Ts to get their dots and crosses. We planned a longer engagement for a reason and if we don’t keep moving, we’ll turn around and see all those extra, comfortable months sitting in the dust.
However, we are in a great spot. I look forward to getting those big things out of the way so we can get to the really fun stuff!!
Until next time!