I hate to admit it, but I have a few drafts sitting in my account that never got finished. I’ve gotten into the strange habit of starting to write, but then allowing myself to get distracted (usually by wedding items), and the next thing I know, it’s hours later and I still haven’t finished the post. With our schedule being what it has been, that’s meant I needed to either cut things short and rush, or they didn’t get finished at all. My mantra for the next 140 days (eek!) is “one thing at a time” and right now, that thing is writing.
It’s a wedding update!
Wedding Bands: When it comes to the wedding, we’ve been busy. After a few visits to the jeweler, we have officially ordered our wedding bands and we can’t wait to see them in a week or so. Word to the wise: confirm business hours before you make an unscheduled trip to see a wedding vendor.
Honeymoon: Last week, we had the exciting task of speaking with our travel agent to get the ball rolling for our honeymoon. If you didn’t know already, our original destination was Bali, but after it was announced that a volcanic eruption was imminent, plans changed. While we were able to get past the disappointment pretty quickly, the reality of starting research from scratch set in and I wasn’t about it. I knew how much we had going on and starting that whole process over didn’t interest me. Fortunately, we were pointed in the direction of a travel agent who is now taking care of the details for our honeymoon to Thailand.
The consultation call we had went very well. We think she did a fantastic job of hearing what was important to us and where we wanted to focus our attention. All her suggestions were in line with what we really wanted to do, so we felt confident leaving things in her hands at the end of our call. We did receive an email telling us that a third city was recommended to us, based on the things we deem priorities, so we’re just waiting to hear back on a proposal so we can get that wrapped up!
Registry: Last weekend, we finally set up our registry. We went to two locations to get the ball rolling and, for the most part, it went very well. It took some adjustment when we got there to keep all parties focused on the task at hand, but when we got into a groove, it was pretty fun. To be quite honest, my anxiety was getting the better of me, but I was blessed with one of those “here’s some perspective” moments when—oddly enough—I lost Nick in the store for a minute. When I went looking for him, I rounded a corner to see that silly fiancé of mine across the store, looking at a toaster, but with his hand inside, pretending to be electrocuted—effectively sending me into a fit of uncontrollable laughter. It was my favorite part of the day and a reminder that, no matter how stressful this process has become, that incredible weirdo will be waiting at the end of the aisle for me… and that’s all that matters in the end.
Frost Yourself: The next day, I enlisted the help of one of my bridesmaids to come shopping for shoes and earrings with me. A task that I thought would take an hour or so ended up being an all afternoon/evening affair (I guess I cared after all—who knew); but we were determined to find the perfect set. I originally planned on going alone, but was happy I decided against it; she got me through with flying colors in more ways than one and we had a lot of fun. Now that the shoes I ordered just came in the mail yesterday, I’m all blinged out for the big day! Just need some extensions and unmentionables (oh la la), and I’m all set!
Moving forward: I have set an ambitious goal for myself of wrapping up as many of the details as I’m able by the end of March/April, so we can sit back and relax in the final months leading up to the big day. I’d rather tackle the necessary last-minute details when the time comes and not add to the list unnecessarily. This weekend is all about purchasing a few items we need for decor, favors, and my personal ensemble, plus starting our wedding stationery—all tasks I am very excited for.
That Crazy Life I Mentioned
Here’s where I want to get real. I promised as much transparency as possible with this section of my blog, so long as it doesn’t affect other people, and I’m going to give that.
Fact: In the grand scheme of things, I haven’t enjoyed planning my wedding very much.
We have had some pretty great moments in planning this wedding and—don’t get me wrong—I can’t wait to see it all come together and know it’s going to be worth it in the end; but, there have been so many unforeseen obstacles and disappointments that I’ve been left with a sour taste in my mouth.
We have a lot going on in our lives right now and, let me be perfectly clear, we did not plan for all this to be happening simultaneously. However, that’s how things worked out and we just have to roll with the punches. It’s safe to say Nick and I simply can’t wait for the dust to settle. We’ve been caught in this sandstorm for over a year and a half now, with the house hunt, wedding planning, and work just swirling around us incessantly. So yeah, we can’t wait for the day we wake up on a beautiful Saturday morning in our new house—as a married couple—with nothing to do, knowing that all of this is behind us. But that aching desire to see it all over has made it that much harder to enjoy ourselves during a time we will not get back. Throw in those obstacles, disappointments, and personal struggles with anxiety, and you’ve got a difficult mindset to overcome.
But… I’m trying.
I don’t want to miss these last 140 days. I don’t want to let obstacles, distance, or other people ruin my experience anymore. Because I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that the day I get to wake up and say, “I’m getting married today,” will be the best day of my life… and none of this will matter when I am walking down that aisle, saying my vows to my best friend, or dancing the night away with the people we love the most in this world.
For the first time in a while, I feel genuinely excited about what we have left to do. It isn’t all that much, but the goal is to be mindful, present, and remember what it’s all for in the end. This process may have looked different than I always pictured, but it’s time to embrace and celebrate every twist and turn before it’s gone.